Sandi Messick. 1962-2010

We gather tomorrow to say our farewells to Sandi tomorrow. It is a strange experience, since she was my ex wife, we divorced just over a year ago. Though we had our differences and disagreements, we were together for seven years, so we were “intiment” in every sense of the word. Because of this I probably knew Sandi better then almost anyone.

We went through some good times and some very difficult events. For a while it seemed we had more than our share of bad luck. For a long time she seemed to be plagued with various health issues. She had some sort of neurological condition which had obviously escalated. I didn’t know how bad it had gotten. The last time I saw her was a few months ago when I had to get her signature on an amended tax return I had to file and she could barely sign her name. It was so sad.

Sandi did look for happiness. I know she especially found happiness with children, her family, and especially her son Andrew. She had a strong sense of right and wrong. She loved swimming, plants, cooking, and roller coasters.

She was a part of my life for a long time. I can’t help but wonder how things might’ve been different. I just hope that she is now in a place of peace and happiness.